It's been some years since I've heard it said that in a relationship, your partner cannot make you whole. Only God can make us whole. Just recently, I was reading a book on relationships and the author said it another way, "You need to be complete before marriage, so you can be whole in the marriage." Any one who knows me knows I like to use analogies to paint a clearer picture and the symbol of the yin-yang illustrates this point wonderfully.

First off, when a man and woman marry the two become one (Genesis 2:24). So now, picture the yin-yang symbol. It is essentially two separate pieces that come together to form one unit. But imagine if either of those pieces looses its tail or the other had a huge chunk carved out of its head. When they form their union, they will still be incomplete. The one with the complete tail can't cover the imperfections of the other and vice versa.